Kristin and I are thrilled to be bringing you the first in a series of posts on behalf of Similac’s Sisterhood of Motherhood campaign. We both love the supportive and honest way this campaign takes on parenthood, leaving no room for judgement. We’re all in this parenting thing together! Even my non-mama friends who rescue me on the weekends by holding my baby while I drink my coffee. Even you my dears are in this thing with me. Can I get a fist bump?
With the weekend fresh in my mind, I thought I’d share a little of what we are going through right now. Jake is 3 ½. I’m finding it to be the most wonderful age in so many ways. He’s so conversational and fun! He loves to learn and is so curious about the world, it really opens up so many great talks. And his imagination is on at full blast all the time. It’s great! But then….oh the testing of boundaries. It’s tough. I get it. He needs to push and see the reactions he gets but man is it hard. He’s generally just such a good kid that it kills me to have to get tough and set firm limits. We’ve been taking on a lot more, “this is your last warning” kind of behaviors and with me at home the most I get the oh-so-fun task of enforcing “cool-off time”.
But it was the weekend. I was tired. I had not yet had my morning coffee. And I did the unthinkable. I resorted to using a donut as a reward for good behavior. I just felt like I didn’t have the energy for yet another toddler battle and needed to get through the grocery store. So, in my moment of weakness I let my guard down and said, “If you can get through this store with me and behave nicely, we will go get a donut afterward.”
He’s wise this one and so he checked to make sure I meant a pink frosted donut with sprinkles before behaving so nicely down each and every aisle. No running or touching everything in sight. No begging for foods or toys I’d have to say no to. Instead it worked and I got through that store in peace, and then I took him for his donut. Oh and my coffee. Ha! Was it my best parenting moment? Definitely not. But occasionally I think it’s ok to drop a battle here and there and cut myself some slack. I’ll make sure that the I’m refueled and energetic for the next round, so that I can patiently handle whatever comes my way. Being a mom isn’t about being perfect all the time. Sometimes I make choices that just let us all breathe a little easier. And I’m hard enough on myself constantly wondering if I’m doing this thing right? Will I raise men who are loving, thoughtful and caring? I sure hope so and strive for it every day. In the meantime, if eating our dinner as a picnic on a blanket once in a while makes life a little easier than sure, why not?!
So, how about you? On this #UniteMonday let us know if you let your guard down at all this weekend? Maybe you let your kiddo run around the house in nothing but a diaper, or you let the dishes pile up? It’s ok! We’ve been there and we all deserve a break!
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