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#UniteMonday: My Weekend Parenting Fail

Toddler Eating Donut

Kristin and I are thrilled to be bringing you the first in a series of posts on behalf of Similac’s Sisterhood of Motherhood campaign. We both love the supportive and honest way this campaign takes on parenthood, leaving no room for judgement. We’re all in this parenting thing together! Even my non-mama friends who rescue me on the weekends by holding my baby while I drink my coffee. Even you my dears are in this thing with me. Can I get a fist bump?

With the weekend fresh in my mind, I thought I’d share a little of what we are going through right now. Jake is 3 ½. I’m finding it to be the most wonderful age in so many ways. He’s so conversational and fun! He loves to learn and is so curious about the world, it really opens up so many great talks. And his imagination is on at full blast all the time. It’s great! But then….oh the testing of boundaries. It’s tough. I get it. He needs to push and see the reactions he gets but man is it hard. He’s generally just such a good kid that it kills me to have to get tough and set firm limits. We’ve been taking on a lot more, “this is your last warning” kind of behaviors and with me at home the most I get the oh-so-fun task of enforcing “cool-off time”.

Toddler Eating Donut

But it was the weekend. I was tired. I had not yet had my morning coffee. And I did the unthinkable. I resorted to using a donut as a reward for good behavior. I just felt like I didn’t have the energy for yet another toddler battle and needed to get through the grocery store. So, in my moment of weakness I let my guard down and said, “If you can get through this store with me and behave nicely, we will go get a donut afterward.”

Toddler Eating Donut

He’s wise this one and so he checked to make sure I meant a pink frosted donut with sprinkles before behaving so nicely down each and every aisle. No running or touching everything in sight. No begging for foods or toys I’d have to say no to. Instead it worked and I got through that store in peace, and then I took him for his donut. Oh and my coffee. Ha! Was it my best parenting moment? Definitely not. But occasionally I think it’s ok to drop a battle here and there and cut myself some slack. I’ll make sure that the I’m refueled and energetic for the next round, so that I can patiently handle whatever comes my way. Being a mom isn’t about being perfect all the time. Sometimes I make choices that just let us all breathe a little easier. And I’m hard enough on myself constantly wondering if I’m doing this thing right? Will I raise men who are loving, thoughtful and caring? I sure hope so and strive for it every day. In the meantime, if eating our dinner as a picnic on a blanket once in a while makes life a little easier than sure, why not?!

So, how about you? On this #UniteMonday let us know if you let your guard down at all this weekend? Maybe you let your kiddo run around the house in nothing but a diaper, or you let the dishes pile up? It’s ok! We’ve been there and we all deserve a break!


Disclosure: We received compensation for this post and in partnering with Similac.

  • Michelle F.

    I was so tried and hot after taking my daughter to soccer class that I gave in and had fast food with her for lunch. I don’t feel guilty about it because it’s OK to allow that to happen sometimes.

    July 27, 2015 at 5:32 pm Reply
  • Heather

    LOL,my three year old is notorious for only wearing underwear at home. Seems like whenever we are home, he has to have as little clothes on as possible. I. Human and let my guard down all the time. However I have developed a cool little system I hope works well into the years. It’s a responsibility chart. If the kids want certai thins, they have to complete their responsibilities for that “thing”‘ snack, media time..etc. it’s working so far. Mommy win!

    July 27, 2015 at 5:41 pm Reply
  • Michele

    Nothing wrong with a little bribery now and again and that smile when he got that doughnut-priceless!! Lets hope he doesn’t remember and say he’ll be good only if he gets a doughnut–then you will have to get tough!!

    July 27, 2015 at 8:21 pm Reply
  • Robin (Masshole Mommy)

    I let stuff go all the time. Life is too short.

    July 27, 2015 at 9:08 pm Reply
  • Debra

    We actually do donuts every Saturday morning. It is my girls favorite morning of the week!

    July 27, 2015 at 11:31 pm Reply
  • Claudia Krusch

    We have been on a diet, so donuts have been out of our home for a long time, since my son was diagnosed with pre-diabetis! But I’m thinking about giving my son a treat in August and let him pick one!

    July 28, 2015 at 9:52 am Reply
  • Lexie Lane

    Well at least you know he’s quite smart! lol!

    Sometimes a treat is definitely a nice thing. We can’t always be perfect.

    July 28, 2015 at 12:20 pm Reply
  • Caitlin

    Well at least he picked a good one:)

    July 28, 2015 at 2:51 pm Reply
  • Jo-Lynne Shane

    Hey, it worked, right? Sounds like a parenting win to me. 🙂

    July 28, 2015 at 6:04 pm Reply

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